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package jdbc;

import java.sql.Connection;
import java.sql.DriverManager;
import java.sql.PreparedStatement;
import java.sql.ResultSet;
import java.util.ArrayList;
import java.util.HashMap;
import java.util.List;
import
 
 java.util.Map;

/**
 * 操作資料庫工具類
 *
 *
 */
public class domain {

    /**
     * 連線資料
     *
     * @return conn
     */
    public static Connection getConnection(String url, String username, String password) {
        Connection conn = null;
        try {
            Class.forName("com.mysql.jdbc.Driver"
 
);
            conn = DriverManager.getConnection("jdbc:mysql://localhost:3306/" + url, username, password);
        } catch (Exception e) {
            e.printStackTrace();
        }
        return conn;
    }

    /**
     * 關閉連線物件
     *
     * @param conn
     *            連線物件
     * @param pstmt
     *            預編譯物件
     * @param
 
 rs
     *            結果集
     */
    public static void closeAll(Connection conn, PreparedStatement pstmt, ResultSet rs) {
        try {
            if (rs != null) {
                rs.close();
            }
            if (pstmt != null) {
                pstmt.close();
            }
            if (conn != null) {
                conn.close();
            }
        } catch (Exception e) {
            e.printStackTrace();
        }
    }

    /**
     * 增刪改操作
     *
     * @param sql
     *            SQL命令
     * @param param
     *            引數
     * @return
     */
    public static int executUpdate(Connection conn, String sql, Object[] param) {
        int result = 0;
        PreparedStatement pstmt = null;
        try {
            System.out.println(sql);
            pstmt = conn.prepareStatement(sql);
            if (param != null) {
                for (int i = 0; i < param.length; i++) {
                    pstmt.setObject(i + 1, param[i]);
                }
            }
            result = pstmt.executeUpdate();
        } catch (Exception e) {
            e.printStackTrace();
        } finally {
            closeAll(conn, pstmt, null);
        }
        return result;
    }

    /**
     * 查詢
     *
     * @return int
     * @date 2015-7-25 上午11:10:06
     */
    public static ResultSet executQuery(Connection conn, String sql, String[] param) {
        PreparedStatement pstmt = null;
        ResultSet result = null;
        try {
            pstmt = conn.prepareStatement(sql);
            if (param != null) {
                for (int i = 0; i < param.length; i++) {
                    pstmt.setString(i + 1, param[i]);
                }
            }
            result = pstmt.executeQuery();
        } catch (Exception e) {
            e.printStackTrace();
        }
        return result;
    }

    /**
     * 簡單增刪改SQL語句執行，複雜sql執行executUpdate方法
     * 字串型別需要加單引號
     * @param url
     *            資料庫
     * @param username
     *            資料庫使用者名稱
     * @param password
     *            資料庫密碼
     * @param map
     *            引數列，值
     * @param tableName
     *            表名
     * @param typeSql
     *            SQL型別 insert,dell,update
     * @param oldLine
     *            刪除時為要刪除的列名，更新的時候為where前的條件列名(僅當且使用dell和update時填寫，insert時不作用)
     * @param newLine
     *            更新時where候的條件列名(僅當且使用update時填寫，dell,insert時不作用)
     * @param oldCondition
     *            刪除時為要刪除的條件，更新的時候為where前的條件(僅當且使用dell和update時填寫，insert時不作用)
     * @param newCondition
     *            更新的時候為where後的條件(僅當且使用update時填寫，dell,insert時不作用)
     */

    public static void sql(String url, String username, String password, Map<String, Object> map, String tableName,
            String typeSql, String oldLine, String oldCondition, String newLine, String newCondition) {
        String sql = "";
        Connection conn = getConnection(url, username, password);
        Object[] valueArray = null;

        if (typeSql.equals("insert")) {
            List<Object> key = new ArrayList<Object>();
            List<Object> value = new ArrayList<Object>();
            StringBuffer sb = new StringBuffer();
            StringBuffer wen = new StringBuffer();
            for (Object string : map.keySet()) {
                key.add(string);
                value.add(map.get(string));
            }

            Object[] keyArray = key.toArray();
            valueArray = value.toArray();
            for (int i = 0; i < keyArray.length; i++) {
                sb.append(keyArray[i] + ",");
                wen.append("?,");
            }
            String string = sb.toString();
            string = string.substring(0, string.length() - 1);
            String wenStr = wen.toString();
            wenStr = wenStr.substring(0, wenStr.length() - 1);

            sql = "INSERT INTO " + tableName + "(" + string + ") VALUES (" + wenStr + ")";
        } else if (typeSql.equals("dell")) {
            sql = "DELETE FROM " + tableName + " WHERE " + oldLine + " = " + oldCondition;
        } else if (typeSql.equals("update")) {
            sql = "UPDATE " + tableName + " SET " + oldLine + "= " + oldCondition + " WHERE " + newLine + " = "
                    + newCondition;
        }
        int executUpdate = executUpdate(conn, sql + ";", valueArray);
        System.out.println(executUpdate);
    }
//測試
    public static void main(String[] args) {
        Map<String, Object> map = new HashMap<String, Object>();
        map.put("appid", "lisi");
         for (int i = 0; i < 100; i++) {
         System.out.println(i);
         map.put("id",i);
         // 增加
          sql("test", "root", "", map, "user", "insert", "", "", "", "");
          // 刪除
          sql("test", "root", "", map, "user", "dell", "id", i+"","", "");
          // 修改
//        sql("test", "root", "", map, "user", "update", "appid", "'zhang'", "id", "0");

         }
        // map.put("password", "123");

    }
}