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Ask HN: How can I get better at negotiating?

1. Listen well. Sometimes this means talking much less. Know what they want. If you do only one thing, it should be this.

2. Be nice. They're more likely to concede if they like you.

3. Don't be assertive. Be calm and cool, act like you know what you want. Assertion encourages them to push back.

4. Say no without saying no. Something like "I really wish I could do that, but it doesn't work for me."

5. Label every fear they have, and label all their advantages. Sometimes they point out an advantage of their product (or the job) in hopes of pushing you back.

6. Instead of proposing solutions, ask for their opinions. It exhausts them mentally, and it puts them in control.

7. Try to be yourself, and don't try to mimic other people's negotiating strategies. Some people are more accommodating, some people are more stern, some are rigid. That's all fine. Learn what you are like and make use of your strengths.